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(Goblin is 41 months)
(Goblin is 41 months)
About 4 months ago Goblin came home from nursery with a new habit, not eating his crusts. He picks up quite a lot of things from the other kids at nursery. Although some of the stuff he picks up is stuff I'd rather he didn't do - like pretending everything is a gun - by and large I like the fact he is learning from a broad selection of people, because that means he is going to become a more rounded person. I hope in time he'll learn to be more discerning about the things he decides to copy.
When presented with this new "issue" Hublet and I had to make a decision about whether we protested. After all he spent the last three years happily eating the entire sandwich, and now he's suddenly decided he has an issue with the crusts!
But we decided not to challenge him on it.
We try not to make too much fuss about things that are food related. I don't ever want food to be a battle. We are very lucky that Goblin eats well and will happily eat most things most of the time. So if he has decided that for now he isn't eating crusts, so be it.
Another reason I don't insist he finishes the whole thing is that I get it. If it was socially acceptable for adults to only eat the inside bit of the sandwich I'd probably do it to. Let's face it that is the nicest bit. Crusts are the tedious bit with no filling that you feel obliged to eat (in my opinion).
I am of course concerned about the issue of waste. I don't want to teach Goblin that its OK to waste food. But often if he is eating a sandwich and leaves the crusts on the plate he will later forget that he "isn't eating the crusts" and will stuff then in too. If I'd made a fuss about it he would probably not do that, firstly because he can be as stubborn as me and secondly because he'd be more likely to remember an argument about the crusts.
I won't cut the crusts off for him. He is welcome to leave them but I'm not going to be complicit in this aspect of his current behaviour. And I will never say "oh he doesn't like crusts" when he's offered sandwiches elsewhere.
Food is a funny thing with kids. We're hoping our hands off approach to Goblins phase will allow him to explore and develop his own opinions of food. What do you think? Does your child have an issue with crusts - or food?
My five faves from last weeks link up were the following
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