Showing posts with label 44 months. Show all posts
Showing posts with label 44 months. Show all posts

Monday, 15 July 2013

Learning by Living in History

(Goblin is 44 months)
So we've been MIA for a while. That's because we were on holiday, being Tudors at a historical re-enactment at Kentwell hall. Instead of telling you about the manor I'm going to tell you what our three and a half year old got out of living in the 16th century for a week. 
Going to Kentwell was a working holiday for us all. We were Sotlers and along with some other lovely folk we had to cook pottage for 150 people (the other re-enactors on the manor) every day. Unlike some stations that don't need to be active until the public and school parties arrive, Sotling requires an earlier start because the fire has to be lit. Fortunately Goblin was our alarm clock, not sleeping beyond 7am despite the late nights. So Hublet, Goblin and I were usually first on station and lit the fire. Goblin learnt that you need kindling to light fires, and that if you are doing it 21st Century stylee you use fire lighters which "small people can't touch because they are poisonous".
Our next job each morning was to fetch the vegetables and legumes that we'd be using in the pottage. We only used things that would have been available and in season (ish) in 16th Century England, so no potatoes or tomatoes. Goblin helped carry turnips, carrots, broad beans, cabbage and various dried pulses and beans. He learnt that carrots were called roots and the generic term for cabbage and other brassica was 'worts'. He also learnt how to shell broad beans and most days he helped to get them ready for cooking, sometimes accompanied by a friend or two. 
As well as vegetables Goblin learnt about herbs that we picked from the garden. He helped to pick mint, savoury, sage, lovage, thyme, good king henry, rosemary and chives. These were added to the pottage in great quantities to add flavour, and Goblin helped to cut them up using his own knife. All the re-enactors at Kentwell carry a knife, mostly hanging from their belts. Goblin learnt that you never try to grab someones knife. And you don't play with blades that have been left on the table. You never know how sharp they are - and after we had all the knives sharpened on the manor this was an essential thing for him to remember. He was very good and only used his own knife (under supervision). 
Goblin already knew some basic fire safety but at Kentwell he learnt extra things like never run towards a fire (incase you trip). And even if a fire pit looks like its not in use you need to check because logs can stay warm and smoldering a long time after the flames have gone. One morning he helped me dowse a fire that had been set in the middle of the sward and we watched the water boil as we poured it on the ash.
Goblin was given an authentic Tudor name. We called him Creature. When a labor wasn't going well and the midwife thought the baby might not live they would grab what ever part of the child they could (often a foot or hand) and not knowing the sex of the baby they would Christen it with a generic name so it would be able to go to heaven. Common names used by 16th century midwives included Creature of Christ or Vitalis, meaning life. Goblin took to his new Kentwell name and told anyone who asked that his name was Creature. 
He also wore a dress. Boys were not breached until the age of 5 or 6, so both girls and boys wore a shift and pinafore (and a coat but Goblin never took to the coat and with the weather being so hot we didn't push it).  He also wore a hat, and coif. I was expecting this to be an issue as he doesn't often wear hats in the 21st century. But when we explained that everyone kept their head covered, he accepted this and wore his hat and coif every day. 
School parties visited the different stations on a route around the manor. Goblin would run to greet each new band and would happily explain to a group of thirty 12 year olds what was in each of the pots, checking with one of the Sotlers if he couldn't remember. One day I found him playing in a great cart surrounded by school children. I listened as he told them "We don't have TV and we don't have cars". Not very authentic but very accurate for a Tudor child, he really had picked up some of the differences between 16th century life and our own.
When Goblin wasn't talking to the public or cooking pottage he found many other ways to amuse himself. These included playing skittles, making pretend pottage, watching the older children play chess, climbing on the great cart, stirring the ash in the cold fire pits, feeding bread to the fish in the moat, picking wild ox eye daisies (and being careful not to pick the orchids - or pink daisies as he called them), and playing with the other children on the manor. He made friends with children ranging from 2 to 12. In the evenings he ran around the front sward of the manor with a group of 8, 9 and 10 year olds. The great thing about Kentwell is how age blind the re-enactor children are. Unlike school where children tend to stick to age bands, at Kentwell all the kids play together and look out for each other.
Believe it or not some re-enactor parents find it difficult to convince their children's schools to release them so they can take part in the main Tudor reenactment that happens during term time. I find this a little baffling as any good educational establishment could see from a glimpse that this experience is oozing with social and educational benefits. As well as the obvious historical education, just a short list of the skills that Goblin picked up or honed at Kentwell would include Public Speaking; Cooking; Herb identification; Animal husbandry; Acting; Fire Safety; and Social skills. I hope that for Goblin this will be the first of many opportunities to learn by doing, the true Montessori way.

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Thursday, 27 June 2013

Kids Coop - Citrus Sensory activities

The Weekly Kids Co-Op

Its Kids Coop time, please link up your kids activity posts and check out what others have been up to. This week I am linking the following:
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(Goblin is 44 months)
Last week we had a citrus day. I bought some lemons, limes and oranges and made a series of activities. Like at his Montessori nursery I left them out around the room so Goblin could choose which he engaged with. 
My activities included a letter learning and mark making activity; a scissor practice and letter learning activity; and a fine motor grating activity. 
Goblin wasn't interested in the two letter activities and spent only a short time on the grating. What he really enjoyed was the hands on smell, touch, taste and sight activity. 
This is such a simple activity. I simply cut up some fruit and squeezed some juice from each into a shot glass. Then I let Goblin taste the juices, and encouraged him to smell and touch the fruit. And then we ate some. He drank the orange juice first and enjoyed it. But he screwed up him face when he tried the lemon and wasn't daft enough to get stung a second time by trying the lime juice, but he did smell it. 
He wanted more of the orange juice and asked me to squeeze some more. He really enjoyed watching me squeeze the juice and talked about it a lot later in the day. I realised that another learning aspect to this is the child gets to see where fruit juice comes from. 
The final activity I'd laid out was sensory play with tapioca gloop. It is literally tapioca boiled in water for 30 minutes with food colouring. It is seriously gloopy and Goblin was not impressed. 
However not to be defeated I moved the bowl to the bathroom and had a play myself. As I was squishing it through my hands Goblin came and joined me and asked if he could add some water. This was a really good idea because it made it less slimey. When I scooped some out they looked like mini water beads. It reminded me of BlogMeMom's post on edible water beads which uses giant tapioca pearls.
I dashed down stairs and brought up a sieve and some big spoons (and a whisk at Goblin's request). And we had a good old splash about with the tapioca and ended up stripping off and throwing at each other while in the bath. 
Today was definitely a sensory play day rather than a letter learning and mark making day. I'm glad I prepared a selection of activities so Goblin could gravitate towards those that appeal to his current needs. 

And now to the linky 


Saturday, 22 June 2013

The Sunday Parenting Party - Taking risks

Taming the Goblin

Its time for the Sunday Parenting Party. Please link up your parenting posts and check out what others have linked up. Please don't link Kids activity posts, they can be linked to Kids Coop. This week I am linking the following:
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(Goblin is 44 months)

Kids need to take risks. It teaches them what their body and mind are capable of; it stretches them, allowing them to gain new skills, and problem solving abilities. It also helps them obtain a realistic sense of danger.
This is true both of physical risks and emotional risks associated with new relationships or trying more advanced academic work.

As parents we want to protect our children. We want to shield them from pain. And sometimes in order to do this we stop them taking risks and we exaggerate the potential dangers. 

"Don't jump off that platform you could break both your arms" 
or worse 
"you will fall and hurt yourself"

So, they jump anyway and they don't fall or break their arms. At best they think you aren't very good at assessing risk. At worst they think you intentionally lied to them to manipulate their behaviour. 
Either way you undermine your position as someone who recognises danger. The risk with that is they won't take you seriously when there is a genuine danger.  

I'm not suggesting we let our kids throw themselves off tall buildings without pointing out the risks. But by carrying out our own realistic risk assessments first, we can provide better guidance to our children and help them develop their own judgement of risk. 
Here is an example:
We were at a park and there were two balance beams with a three foot gap between them and a rope swing to get across. The equipment was obviously meant for older children because Goblin couldn't reach the rope to swing across.  But he wanted to try. 
My initial thought was - he will let go of the rope half way across and fall head first into the beam opposite cracking his skull open.
I could have stopped there and said 
"No you are too small and weak and you will fall and hurt yourself"
Instead I did a risk assessment in my head and estimated that it was statistically unlikely that he'd crack his skull badly, although the risk of falling and sustaining a minor injury was quite high. But we could live with that. To mitigate the risks I did the following

1. Tell your child how to achieve their goal safely and successfully
"Hold on to the rope high up so you swing above the beam, and don't let go until your feet are planted on the furthest beam"

2.  Implement your own actions to mitigate the risk
"I will stand here right by the beam to catch you if you fall" 

3. Even if you are panicking, instill confidence in your child, doubt breeds hesitation and failure.
"Go for it, you can do it"

4. Use failure as an opportunity to refect and learn
"You didn't make it that time, what do you think you could do differently next time to help you get across"

Goblin made it across successfully on his first attempt. But he doesn't always succeed. Sometimes he falls and hurts himself. Mostly they are minor injuries. One day he might hurt himself seriously but I'm hoping that by teaching him to assess risk, by being realistic about the dangers (and the probability of major injury) he will learn what he is capable of and won't be reckless. Here's hoping!

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I'm on holiday this week so I haven't had a chance to select any recommended reads from last weeks link up - sorry.  Here is this weeks linky. 

Thursday, 20 June 2013

Kids Coop - Playdates with freedom to run

The Weekly Kids Co-Op

Its Kids Coop, please link up your kids posts and check out what others have been doing this week. I'm linking the following:
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(Goblin is 44 months)

Playdates can be daunting. There's always a question of what to do and how to keep the kids occupied and whether they will get on. I always opt for going outside when possible because it relieves some of the pressure. I was still slightly anxious when we set off on our play date with Bjorn the other day at RHS Hyde Hall. Bjorn and Goblin are firm friends and attend the same nursery. But Goblin has been up and down with his moods and although we'd had a wonderful morning he had fallen asleep in the car and I was worried his fatigue might cause ructions. 

I needn't have worried. With the beautiful weather, Bjorn's mum's wonderful laid back approach and plenty of space to run, the boys were off enjoying their freedom and space.
They circled back round to us a few times, and we joined in with games of hide and seek and British Bulldog, but mainly we left them to lead the way and explore.
And when they started to show signs of tiring - a good four hours after we'd arrived - we said our good byes with minimal distress. Playdate success!
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Saturday, 15 June 2013

Sunday Parenting Party - Our experiences with rugby classes

Taming the Goblin

Its time for the Sunday Parenting Party. Please link up your parenting posts and check out what others have linked up. Please don't link Kids activity posts, they can be linked to Kids Coop. This week I am linking the following:
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(Goblin is 44 months)

Goblin has been going to a rugby class since January. He doesn't normally handle classes well. Following other people's structures and rules doesn't sit comfortably with him. In music classes he has exhibited his displeasure by either running around the room while others sat and followed the teachers instructions, or he has cowered in a corner. But we figured playing on the things he does love - being outside and running around - would help him acclimatise to the rugby class. 

It didn't.

We are now in the second term of the class and Goblin is the only child who still refuses to run the length of the pitch unless I am with him. This 'classroom' behaviour is completely out of character. In a wood or at the zoo Goblin would be the child disappearing round the corner with out a care. I would be the parent jogging to keep up or frantically screaming at him to wait. But at rugby it's different. The parents all line up on the touch line watching their kids.  Except for me. I am the one running along the side of the pitch to encourage my child to participate. If I go and stand on the touch line Goblin simply walks off. He goes and hides behind the shed, or wanders to the far end of the field or sits in a corner and eats grass. Yes he eats grass - because the other parents don't think we are strange enough already!!! 


I had started to fret about his inability to join in and follow basic instructions. In fact Hublet and I had started to get quite cross with him - firstly because we started to feel it was a waste of money, but also because we were starting to get a bit embarrassed. But we discussed why we were sending him to classes. We knew he didn't really like that format of class based activities but we wanted him to experience that type of structure and get used to having to interact with kids on terms that weren't his own. At the same time we wanted him to have fun. So we started to approach the classes in a more relaxed way and not get too stressed out when Goblin chose to sit on the side lines. And we started to notice that while I was the only parent consistently having to run alongside my child, Goblin certainly wasn't the only child opting out of certain parts of the class, bursting into tears, and having mini meltdowns (it had just felt that way when all our focus was on our child). 


I also started to notice when Goblin was feeling uncomfortable. It tended to be when he had to do something with all the children in one big group. That's when he started to just give up. I think he doesn't like the pressure. The coach noticed it to and now when Goblin is looking like he won't join in, the coach will call him over and get him to help with what ever he is doing - often chasing down the other kids, which Goblin much prefers to being chased. 


In a few short weeks Goblin has gained some confidence and although he still spends a lot of the class sitting out the activities, he has decided he does like the running races (i don't think he realises they are a race). And he will run them without me. In fact he now tells me off if I start running with him. A mini breakthrough. 

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Thursday, 13 June 2013

Kids Coop - Board Games for 3 - 4 year olds

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(Goblin is 44 months)

I'm excited because Goblin has started to want to play games with rules. I have to admit that given his tendency to do his own thing regardless, I hadn't thought that board games would be his thing, but apparently they are. We have had some hits and some misses so I wanted to share a few that have been real successes.



This is by far top of the bill. It is super easy to play and your child only needs to know their colours and be able to count to 2. The game involves up to 4 people who have to go from the beginning of the board to the castle at the end, along the coloured square path. To move you take a card from the pile. It has either one coloured square or two squares of the same colour. You move to the next square of the colour, or if there are two squares you move to the second square of that colour. See I told you it was easy. 
There are however a handful of 'wild cards'. These are pictures of candy that match a single picture on the board. If you get that card you move to where ever that picture is. This can create a massive advantage if you move early in the game to the end of the path, but equally it can send you right back to the beginning if you get an early picture and you are near the end of the path. If your child is a sensitive sort who is likely to throw a fit if this happens to them you can just remove those cards from the pack. We were pleasantly surprised by how well Goblin handled it when he was sent back, but I think that is because we were playing it as a fun game rather than a competition to get to the end first. We also keep playing until every player has finished so there is no urgency to be the winner.
This game teaches basic counting and observation skills, turn taking and patience and how to be a gracious winner or loser.

2: Go Away Monster

Go Away Monster is for up to four players. Each player has a board which is a picture of a bedroom with four bits of furniture missing. To get your furniture you take turns to dip your hand in the mystery bag and pull out a piece using only feel to determine wether its a piece of furniture you need or a monster. If its a monster you pull out you shout "GO AWAY MONSTER" and throw it into the box. The aim is to complete your room before all the monsters are pulled out.
This game reminds me of Montessori mystery bags. It teaches a child to use the sense of feel rather than sight to identify and object. The game would be utterly awesome of the shapes were three dimensional but it is still fun with the two dimensional shapes. Goblin enjoys playing this although he doesn't shout at the monsters, he says "hello Monster" before placing them carefully in the box - and he isn't too interested in not pulling out monsters.

3: Formula D

When Hublet first brought this game home I sighed inwardly. It looked really complicated and I predicted Goblin based meltdowns as Hublet tried to explain the rules. However, while it can be played by adults with all the more complicated rules applied, this game is also very accessible to preschoolers on a much simpler level. Children need to be able to count to about 30 and recognise numerical digits. That said Goblin can't count beyond 12 and doesn't recognise any numbers above 5 and was still happily able to play this with a bit of assistance.
The game involves very tiny cars - the type that babies would swallow and choke on - which you line up on the starter grid. Each player has a gear box and on each turn you decide whether to stick in the gear you are in, go up a gear or go down a gear - this dictates which dice you use. The lower gears have dice that only generate low numbers and the higher gears have dice that generate higher numbers. You roll your dice and move that many squares. If two cars land next to each other a dice is rolled to determine whether there has been any damage incurred to either car. At various points around the race track there are sections where you must land/stop or you incur damage. Hence having to change up and down gear - if you are two spaces away from a section you need to stop in you don't want to be rolling a dice that will give you an 8 or higher because you won't land in the section.
Confused? Yeah it is more complicated than the other two games which are specifically made for kids, but Goblin sat and played this with us for an entire half hour and followed the rules as we explained them. I think it helped that he is obsessed by vehicles.
This game teaches counting, turn taking, numerical recognition, graceful winning and losing, patiences and how to drive stick!

Other games we have tried that haven't been so popular in our family include
Connect 4 - Goblin isn't interested in the rules and turn taking aspect which may be because he had this game as a Montessori activity when he was a baby - I used to let him post the counters in to improve his gross motor and fine motor movements.
Ludo - Goblin just gets bored, it takes too long fo rthe game to finish with nothing interesting happening except taking turns to move a piece forward.
Snap  - he enjoys it but doesn't quite get it and often the packs we play with have too few snaps.

I'd love to hear any recommendations you have for board games for this age group.
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