tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4437312531314961361.post2858933317801660376..comments2023-09-21T12:36:46.064+01:00Comments on Taming the Goblin: Trying Something NewThe Monkohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02015980234917286789noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4437312531314961361.post-3511833323662813592014-03-24T21:28:52.705+00:002014-03-24T21:28:52.705+00:00Thanks, I like Laura Markham's blog, its a rea...Thanks, I like Laura Markham's blog, its a really good source of positive parenting advice. The Monkohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02015980234917286789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4437312531314961361.post-78353183466237227002014-03-20T14:50:29.468+00:002014-03-20T14:50:29.468+00:00I'm not a parent yet, so totally take this wit...I'm not a parent yet, so totally take this with a grain of salt, but since you mentioned you like the positive parenting approach, I thought you might like some of the advice this clinical psychologist and mother offers on her extensive peaceful parenting website: http://www.ahaparenting.com/ask-the-doctor-1/4-year-old-is-a-bully-helpAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4437312531314961361.post-18310000162877630052014-03-17T00:49:43.681+00:002014-03-17T00:49:43.681+00:00Thanks for featuring and linking to my post from l...Thanks for featuring and linking to my post from last week! Glad you liked it! Hope you enjoy the one I'm linking up this week too!Katelynhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01814002191367865779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4437312531314961361.post-61060405247008814822014-03-16T15:34:26.909+00:002014-03-16T15:34:26.909+00:00I am also a huge advocate of Positive Parenting te...I am also a huge advocate of Positive Parenting techniques, but now use a "House Rules" sign to modify my son's behavior. We worked on the rules together and agreed to what was reasonable & fair (both on rules and consequences), as well as shook hands as our commitment to each other that we would both follow the rules. So far, it's worked fairly well. No more yelling (from me) and when a rule is broken & I politely request they take some time out/take a break - no more meltdowns as a result of that request. I did all this as a last resort. And what I found was that my child finds comfort in having the "rules" written out in an objective way - those "rules" are no longer mine to impose on him, not mine to teach him. He agreed to what was unacceptable behavior and knows that everyone in the house, not just him, is responsible for making the right choice. You have to find what works for you. Will I always have "House Rules?" maybe, maybe not. Will I create more written rules, probably not, but if I need to, then I will. Do I still listen to him, validate his feelings and in general, follow the positive parenting philosophy when dealing with negative behavior? - yes. My son is now 5 & I dealt with gigantic tantrums for over a year before doing the House Rules, so I didn't enter into the decision lightly. Good luck, and give us an update in about 6 months or so to let us know how well it's working in the long term.TooSillyBoyshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01647823761509881498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4437312531314961361.post-18319093262483166652014-03-16T14:57:39.884+00:002014-03-16T14:57:39.884+00:00I'm glad the rewards chart seems off to a good...I'm glad the rewards chart seems off to a good start. I think it's a great way to reinforce positive behavior and help little ones see how their behavior affects others. I think it can really help them reflect. Frantic Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05276873479704767846noreply@blogger.com